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This post is one of the last things I’ll be doing before powering down my laptop and adding it to the box of computer-related electronics.  I don’t know how long it will be before we are online in our new home, which is a slightly scary prospect for someone as dependent on e-mail and internet as I am!

The 10 months we’ve spent here have been a time of real transformation for me.  That hasn’t always been positive.  I am much more short-tempered and sometimes frustrated than I was in the past, something which I truly regret and am still trying to work through.  However, I’ve also been able to enjoy the blessings of friends and my family more than ever before!

All things come to an end, and every end is a new beginning.  I’m learning to look forward with hope.  At the moment I’m hoping that our new home will be a fresh start for me, that I’ll be able to clear my head a bit, re-focus my priorities and leave some psychological baggage behind as well.

See you on the flip side :)

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I don’t usually like to criticise other people’s parenting styles.  I’m no expert, and I’m sure there’s plenty to criticise about mine.  But occasionally I see something that really makes me wince, especially when it seems to be very common.  So here goes my rant:

When you’re doing your weekly shopping at the grocery store and your children are playing noisily with each other, that’s ok. You do not have to get all irritated and say in a nasty tone, ‘Would you please stop that?!’  That’s not cool.  They’re children.  They’re playing.  No one is upset except you.

Ok, I’m finished ranting.  But seriously.  ’Good behaviour’ for a child does not mean acting like an adult.  And ‘good behaviour’ for a parent means giving your kids a long lead, even if it interferes with your hectic, overstressed (and self-induced) lifestyle.

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This post is part of an ongoing series. You can find out more by clicking here.

In the beginning of this chapter, we read that ‘a good traveller has no fixed plans’ and ‘a good artist lets his intuition lead him’, and we saw that the Taoist never tries to bulldoze a straight path through life.  If we believe that the Tao is always at work in and through every circumstance, then it makes sense for us to work with the setting we find ourselves in, rather fight against it while leaving rubble and destruction in our wake.  Nothing is useless; nothing is futile.  Nothing is pointless; everything has value.  I find this greatly encouraging, and it helps me to have patience in difficult times.

Embracing this perspective changes our actions as well as our attitude:

Thus the Master is available to all people
and doesn’t reject anyone.
He is ready to use all situations
and doesn’t waste anything.
This is called embodying the light.

Here is the paradox:  when I set myself mandatory goals and a precise, well-defined strategy, I will fail if the circumstances turn against me (and they inevitably do!).  But if I let go of my agenda instead, then anything which happens can be used for good!  And the ‘good’ that it brings will be better than any of my well-intentioned goals would have been.  So the one who demands success will fail, and the one who gives up success will succeed.

I am interested in this phrase, ‘embodying the light’. It occurs to me that when we choose to accept and make use of the rejected and neglected things of the world, it shows their true value and worth for everyone.  In this way, we really can be embody the light in an otherwise dark world.

What is a good man but a bad man’s teacher?
What is a bad man but a good man’s job?
If you don’t understand this, you will get lost,
however intelligent you are.
It is the great secret.

Nothing is useless; nothing is futile.  If you are good and wise, your reason for living is to help others.  If you foolish and flawed, then the universe exists for your benefit.  Everything works together for good — for ourselves and for each other — but only if we choose to let it.

Will you?

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